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Surrogacy without drama

When surrogacy comes up in the media, it's usually within the context of a story about celebrities, outsourced wombs, court cases or comedy. But this past weekend, the Washington Post had the story of a surrogacy gone absolutely, positively... normal. From Brigid Schulte's piece:

Fourteen years ago, Kovacic, a married, middle-class mother of three, signed a $15,000 contract with Carol Van Cleef and Doug Thompson, now of McLean, to carry the embryo that their sperm and egg had created in a petri dish. On her 35th birthday, Kovacic gave birth to Jamie. The two families, without a second thought or a hint of awkwardness, have celebrated together every year since.

In technical terms, Kovacic was a "gestational carrier" for Carol and Doug, the "intended parents." Kovacic, 49, short and easygoing with an impish sense of humor, and Van Cleef, 52, a tall, willowy, self-described type-A partner in a major law firm, couldn't be more different. But theirs is an intimate bond of flesh and bone, forged in science and the ancient yearning for a child that society has yet to find the words to describe, much less understand.

Kovacic, who lives in Herndon, brought two of her own daughters to the birthday dinner. The girls gushed about movies and bands and teased Jamie's 17-year-old brother, Peter. Jamie, sitting between Kovacic and Van Cleef, mentioned that she would be singing soprano in her upcoming chorus concert.

Kovacic looked at Van Cleef and raised an eyebrow. "I know she didn't get that from either one of us, did she?"

Kovacic has been Jamie's "special friend" at preschool. She has attended her graduations, school performances and confirmation. She babysat for her as a child. But the one thing she clearly isn't is Jamie's mother.

One interesting fact from this piece: surrogate births account for less than one percent of all births from reproductive technologies.

-Greg Dahlmann